24/04/2025
I did everything 'right'.
I went to university, got a 2:1 Business with French Degree, worked in the city, climbed the corporate ladder... I met my husband, we lived abroad and experienced a completely different lifestyle....
As soon we became parents our worlds turned upside down and inside out.
"Becoming a mother leaves no woman as it found her. It unravels her. It rebuilds her. It cracks her open, takes her to her edges. It is both beautiful and brutal often at the same time" Nikki McCahon.
'Matrescence' they call it. When you become a mother, a massive shift of identity, beliefs, wants and desires takes place which is messy, emotional and transformative. And often not spoken about.
It is also beautiful. They are our heartbeats. They are our legacy.
I have also always wanted to work for myself since I was 12 years old and tried and failed MANY times.
Since becoming a parent I have had to give up my job. Twice. Due to lack of flexibility and childcare costs leaving our income unstable, stressful and uncertain.
Flexibility is a lifeline for working parents but is still a struggle to find.
Childcare costs are excruciatingly expensive and unattainable for most working parents.
But working for ourselves we can look after our children without being penalised with painful costs. We can be present and we can earn a living with integrity.
We can juggle our family commitments and build something for the future with care and compassion because it means something. I want my children to look back and say: " You did it! with all the odds stacked against you, you still came out on top. She's unstoppable so I can be too".
We can also help other families with the upkeep of their home at an affordable cost.