How to Make a Man Love You Like Crazy

06/09/2019

LEARN TO LISTEN TO YOUR PARTNER AND SHARE OTHER PERSON'S VIEWS
Effective communication requires that when one person is talking, the other should listen. For either of the couple to express their feelings, there must be that feelings of warmth, kind reception and effective listening. You should not put your spouse off by interrupting, changing the topic, or walking away; in other words, you are simply saying, "I am not interested". You need to listen and understand the situation before you give any advice. Give your partner the opportunity to unveil his/her anxieties, or the chance to tell you everything before you come out with ready-made answers or solutions.
Husband and wife should encourage each other by giving sound advice especially the husband. This will help the husband to make wise decisions, as two are better than one [Eccl 4:9]. Decision-making is a big problem in the home, many husbands find it difficult to allow their wives to contribute in decision making in the home. They do not listen to their wives at all. Such men make a lot of mistakes more than the husband who allows his wife to talk and share in decision making in the home. This topic is special discussed for the married couples.

06/09/2019

LEARN TO EXPRESS YOURSELF CLEARLY
Many times, people have not been able to pass the message they want to pass, or when it's passed, the message will not be a clear message it may be as a result of; Double Talk: When you say one thing & mean the other. Always say what you mean & mean what you say. If you say one thing and mean the other, how do you expect that you would be understood?
Ambiguous statement: Ambiguous & pregnant statements can confuse your partner & cause him/her not to really understand your message
Wrong Assumption: Some assume that their partners already understand what they are saying. They talk & fail to see the reaction of the partner whether the message was taken or not. If you fail to get the right response the assumption will be that the partner has neglected you. Always check the reaction and the response of your partner to confirm whether your message is properly taken or not.
Dishonest Statement: What it means is having one thing in the mind but saying a different thing. You might be avoiding using certain words or language. You might also have certain things in mind but trying to impress your listener with the use of special statement. Take for instance a husband wants to pass a message that the food the wife prepares has become cold & that she should have preserved it in the flask or warmer. He now tells the wife "This food is very hot, I cannot eat it fast". Your wife may not be able to read your mind; she may make it worse next time in trying to please you. You should be able to explain all that you have in mind.
Misunderstanding: There's a saying in yoruba land, the western part of Nigeria, it is interpreted thus "When there is a quarrel every song you sing at that time turns to a proverb or abusive words". If you cannot explain what you are trying to say during a misunderstanding at home, every word will always turn to another thing. For instance, if you begin to praise God with a chorus such as "You're the mighty man in battle, El-shaddai, you're the mighty in battle glory to your name", your partner at that time might understand it to mean that you are asking God to come to battle with him or her.
Language Barrier: if a couple are from two different backgrounds where they speak different languages, what a statement means to one may be different from what the same statement means to the other. Be sure you express yourself in such a way that your spouse understands you. Use general language to communicate.

03/09/2019

KNOW WHEN TO SPEAK, WHEN TO BE SILENT AND WHAT TO SAY
You must learn to know when to speak, when to be silent and what to say depending on each situation. Pr 25:11 "like apples of gold in setting of silver is a word spoken in right circumstances". Pr 15:2&7. " The tongue of the wise useth knowledge alright; but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness". "The lips of the wise disperse knowledge; but the heart of the foolish doeth not so".
You need to watch the mood of your partner & ask for wisdom & God's guidance. If you speak at a wrong time, the husband may take it as not being submissive & the wife may take it that the husband is trying to impose himself.
Keeping quiet when you are supposed to talk also may seem to your partner that you consider him or her as a fool since the saying goes that "silence is the best answer to a fool". Couples should realize that silence presents a negative feed back. Your silence, the seeming indifference to your partner's feelings, and your refusal to discuss things with your spouse can destroy your marriage. Don't be silence when you see something going wrong and speak when you're not supposed to speak. Silence is sliver and talking is gold, speak out loud any issues you have with your spouse don't let silence ness kill your marriage

12/08/2019

FINANCIAL FAITHFULNESS, WORDS OF WISDOM.
It is wrong to make any substantial income or expenditure without the knowledge of your spouse. Although small amounts could be made or expanded without prior notice, you should feel free to discuss these things in the spirit openness.
Having a large income and making big financial decisions without your partner's knowledge amounts to secrecy. This should not be permitted between spouses. You two are one, no personal secret is allowed.
This is because if your mate finds out, suspicions, doubts, revenge, anger and all manner of negative attitudes may develop in him or her. Your wish is to enjoy your marriage, isn't it? So don't use your own hands to cause problems in your marriage.
You may decide not to hand over the money to your spouse for reasons best known to you, but he or she must know how much came in and what it is to be used for.
Do you want to maintain the trust of your spouse? Don't keep financial secrets. If his or her knowledge of the money will make him or her force you to spend it on things you didn't bargain for, then, call the attention of a family member confidante to help you resolve the matter.
Agree with your spouse on the priorities to use your money for. Engage the mediation of a trusted family friend or relative in the absence of such a consensus agreement. It is better for someone to intercede for you, to prevent your spouse wasting the money than he or she discovering your secret financial manipulation.
Let there be a financial romance with your spouse. Doing it yourself alone is "financial ma********on". Doing it with another person outside your marriage; your partners, siblings, friends etc, is financial adultery ".
Be faithful to your mate, not only in bed but also in bond.

12/08/2019

FINANCIAL FAITHFULNESS
I believe you have heard of financial integrity & financial prudence before. These are everyday & everywhere language.
I know a language you may not have come across. I was in a marriage seminar sometime ago and someone talked about "financial love making". There are terms used to describe financial relationships between two or more persons.
For a couple, what binds one binds the other. A spouse's financial abundance lack invariably translates to the same condition with his or her mate. This may be the ulterior motive behind getting married to rich partners even when it is so clear that love is not there; which has put many into agony and regrets.
Couples at the beginning tend to see their financial purse as one, complementing each other in financial matters. As the months and years go by, the situation begins to change. Suspicions, doubts, greed, selfishness and so many external influences begin to have their toll on the financial fidelity of the couple. Manipulation begin to rear head, and in most cases financial integrity between them collapses.
Dishonesty in the area of financial may be wrongly translated by your mate to mean dishonesty in other aspects of the marriage including sexual faithfulness. This is why each partner is advised to be financially upright with his or her spouse at all times, so there will be no room for suspicions and accusations.
As I learnt in the seminar I attended, financial love making is a situation where the couple sit down and analyze their financial strengths and weaknesses, ability and incapability. This also involves their joint weekly or monthly income and expenditure.
After this detailed discussion, they now agree and decide, based on the fact on ground, how they are going to run their finances, whether to operate a joint or separate account, who manages the income and who does the expenditure. In the face of this kind of agreement, any breech along the line becomes financial infidelity.
Couples make mistakes when they fail to realize that financial faithfulness is as strong & important as sexual faithfulness. Trust is one of the pillars of marriage. If it is eroded, the relationship may be heading towards shipwreck.
Bible says, "for the love of money is the root of all evil "(1 Timothy 6:10). Money has destroyed so many relationships, marriages, organizations and partnerships today. Don't let it destroy your own marriage.

26/07/2019

Please always say sorry 🙏 🙏 🙏 to your husband, even if it's your right. Its takes nothing from you, rather it will make your marriage ⚭ more fun and enjoyable. Be a sorry 🙏 🙏 🙏 wife always

26/06/2019

DO NOT KEEP QUIET
Do not keep quiet, say something at least. Matt 18:15 also says "Go and tell him his fault". The common factor in settling differences whether one had offended or is being offended is to talk it out.
When there is a misunderstanding, don't keep quiet say something ;talk. Don't keep away from each other and do not allow problems to keep you from talking. Otherwise, it will be difficult to pass your message to your spouse. It is dangerous not to say anything. When you say nothing, small problems grow into big ones. You may disagree during discussion, you should not allow the disagreement to stop your communication/ conversation, instead, continue discussing the subject until you reach an agreement. Never allow quarrels or disagreement to kill your communication, instead communicate to provide solutions and solve problems.
Take it to the lord in prayers whenever it's like the problem is over power your control. Keep talking and don't keep quiet when things are not going well in your marriage. Always take your spouse alone with you on whatever you wanna do before making any decision, regardless of your position let your spouse go along with you.
Remember you are no more two but one.

26/06/2019

AVOID BRINGING IN THE THIRD PARTY
Matt 18:15 says that you should go & tell him his fault & it should be between the two of you. When there is misunderstanding between the two of you find a way of talking with each other. There should be no discussion with friends. One may easily be misled, especially sisters pro 13:16 says "every prudent man dealeth with knowledge, but a fool layeth his folly". Pro 29:11 also says "a fool uttereth all his mind, but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards".
There are women who will tell their friends how their husbands give them little allowance for home keeps. The friend who is not even receiving anything either little or much may pretend that she receives so much from the husband. She may even advise that the wife should take it seriously with the the husband. If this leads to problem and separation that friend is ready to marry the husband and receive the "little" the wife has rejected. This is more than enough for her compared with her former experience.
You should not have any best friend in your marriage. Your spouse is your best friend, the closest to you. Any of your parents, brothers or sisters is not your closest anymore but your spouse. According to the Bible, your spouse, the wife was the one removed from man & the man is the one from whose side the woman was removed, not the father or the mother. It's time we understand this as the Bible standard for marriage especially in the African culture. It's wrong for a man to be closer to the parents or other members of the family [including children] than the wife. Some discuss issues that they do not discuss with their spouses especially with the wife, with relations & on many occasions keep them as secret from their spouses. The moment you get married, know that the Bible says that what God has joined together nothing should put asunder Matt 19:6. If that is too much for you, you should have gotten married in the first instance.
People should not come to tell you what they will not want your partner to know, it's simply killing your relationship & you will find it difficult to understand each other in such a situation. It's even wrong discussing with your pastors what you cannot discuss with your partner. Pastors or other matured & experience people can come into counsel or help in situation that requires help & that will involve the two of you. However, when you need help, please seek help from God first before pastors or counsellors. Don't die in silence.

15/06/2019

05/06/2019

TAKE EVERY PROBLEMS TO GOD IN PRAYER
It's a good thing to to God, your heavenly Father before you talk to each other. When there's any problem or misunderstanding at home or when you want to take a decision, pray about the situation. Take every problems to God in prayer. "Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God". Phil chapter four verse six. Do not consider anything too small or too big to commit into the hands of God.

03/06/2019

STEPS TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION
Disagreement or misunderstanding is normal in a Christian home. The ability to agree or disagree in love is a sign of maturity. Always agree to disagree in love when necessary.
Steps to effective communication can be summarized in the principles laid down by our lord Jesus christ in the book of Matthew 18:15. "Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone".
The first principle is "GO AND TELL HIM HIS FAULT". The second is "BETWEEN THEE AND HIM ALONE". If we all follow these two principles in the home, things will work better than now you can imagine.
Mathew 18:15 therefore is a summary of all the steps to effective communication in marriage.

03/06/2019

MATURING IN COMMUNICATION
You grow and mature on daily basis in communication as you learn to understand yourselves gradually. Before we get married, we used to think that since we were born again, spirit - filled, tongues speaking and heaven - attributes and same faith would totally eradicate the issue of misunderstanding in our marriage. In fact, the day we had a misunderstanding during our courtship got us disappointed and proved us wrong.
We later understood better. Initially, during our courtship we were having it very often but as we grew in our relationship we began to have reduction in our rate of misunderstanding. After our wedding it was like beginning again as we quarrelled daily because we were now living together. We later graduated to every other day, then once in a week and then once a month. Today, by the grace of God almighty after over 25th years of marriage, we have matured and have grown to the level that we may not have any misunderstanding for over a year.
If you are having a misunderstanding regularly now, do not be discouraged there is nothing abnormal about your marriage. It's either that you did not run your courtship properly by ironing out many issues before marriage or it could be as a result of inexperience, when you are newly wedded. Ignorance of the importance of communication process is another problem.
As you are reading this, your marriage will come alive again by the grace of God almighty who established and formed marriage. [Amen].