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AITA Today, 4410 Sepulveda Boulevard, Culver City, CA (2026)

06/04/2026

She’s not technically an ex since we were never in an actual relationship. I (26M) was back home for a few months almost 2 years ago. We hooked up for I’d say 4 months until I flew back out of state for work again. Her and I didn’t see eachother again just recently at this baby shower.

I guess they became friends through this mom group (my friend has one other kid) and they became good friends so that’s why she was also invited. And I was gonna say hi when I saw her there but she ignored me. Then that’s when I noticed she was there with her boyfriend and their baby so thought it was better to keep my distance. But she actually approached me like 10 mins later by the bathroom in the house. She asked me if I could leave because she’s with her bf, and it’s just very awkward with both of us there at that party.

But like I haven’t even approached them at all so why would it be awkward if we don’t interact during the party? She wasn’t letting it go, she actually told me please and it’s complicated. I told her if her boyfriend doesn’t know we have a history then he won’t need to because I honestly don’t care, all I’m doing is being here celebrating one of my close friend’s day so if she leaves me alone I’ll leave her alone.

That didn’t end up being the case. They left not even an hour later. I kept my word though about not going near them but one of my friends told me her boyfriend saw me and for whatever reason they started arguing. It wasn’t subtle either. They went to the front of the house but you could still hear what sounded like them raising their voice at eachother. And a few mins later I saw her walking to my friend probably telling her bye but she definitely looked right at me after that like she’s super pi**ed.

Everyone at the party was confused after so they were all talking about it for the rest of the time.

For the first time in a long time she texted me since I never changed my number, she told me thanks for ruining a party when all of this could’ve been avoided. I asked her what could have been avoided but again she doesn’t tell me. She just thinks it’s my fault for whatever s__t went down. Then after my friends found out she asked me to leave they think I’m TA for not doing that.

The whole party was meant for my friend and it was turned into some drama just because I wouldn’t leave even if it was for some unknown reason. Idk what to think now. Or why it was such a big deal that we were at the same party when neither of us even talked at all. AITA for being the cause of a scene because I denied her request?

06/04/2026

I feel like I’m gonna get a lot of hate for this but I had to post it anyways. Btw on a throwaway.

So I’m getting married soon (28 F), and one of the most exciting parts of the wedding for me are the bridesmaids and the dresses. I don’t consider myself to be a bridezilla, but on my special day, I want everything to be as perfect and coordinated as it could possibly be.

So about a week ago I decided to invite my bridesmaids over so we could discuss dresses and stuff. Let’s call the bridesmaid I had the issue with “Joy.”

Before they came over I already had a nice dress in mind. The dress was burgundy, form fitting, cut a little above the knees, and had one shoulder strap. I thought it was gorgeous and very feminine for women our age, but Joy and a couple of other girls weren’t exactly comfortable (mostly because it was form fitting) so I let it slide. I really wanted a dress that all of the bridesmaids would love and feel comfortable in, but they had to be the same.

So the next dress was still burgundy, but it touched the floor (no slit) and it had spaghetti straps. Everybody loved the dress except for Joy, who claimed that she didn’t want to wear the dress because she’s insecure about her shoulders. Fair enough.

At this point I knew that Joy was going to be difficult to work with, but I kept going because again, I wanted to be accommodating. I think we went through 5 or 6 more dresses before the last one. (The dresses that I showed the bridesmaids were modest IMO and little things were what made Joy not want to wear them). The complaints she had were always something small like “I don’t like how the dress shows the shoes, then my toes would be out” or “my hair isn’t long enough to compliment those sleeves” (yes, I’m 100% serious).

So the last dress I showed them was a floor length burgundy dress, loose, had beautiful long sleeves, and the only thing that was keeping it from not being a burgundy maxi dress with long sleeves was the fact that there was a slit that came up to below the knee. It honestly was one of my least favorite dresses out of the ones I chose, but I wanted to try to be accommodating. Again, everyone seemed to agree with the dress except for Joy, who claimed that the slit was a little too provocative for her taste.

After this, I was a little frustrated, so I just said we’d try looking at dresses again another time. While the girls were leaving, I pulled Joy aside and explained that I don’t think she’d be a good fit for my bridal party because this aspect of the wedding meant a lot to me and her demands were too “nitpicky” to be a part of the group, but I still wanted her to be at the wedding. She got upset and said that I was excluding her because of her insecurities. I said that I already tried to accommodate her by showing many different styled dresses, but she didn’t want to hear it, and left. So, am I TA?

Edit: I am paying for the dresses

Edit 2: Wow, this blew up more than I expected. I’m trying to read the new comments (there’s over 300 which is crazy) and respond to the INFO comments, but if I missed it, I’m sorry! :( But I just wanted to respond here to some frequently asked questions, and to make some clarifications.

• I wanted matching dresses because I’ve seen pictures and videos of weddings where the bridesmaids wore matching dresses and I fell in love with the look.

• I wanted an unanimous vote instead of “majority rules” because this is how I looked at it. Say all of the bridesmaids loved this dress but 2 of them didn’t, and I picked the dress anyways. I would feel bad if 2 of my bridesmaids felt uncomfortable the whole night because they were “overpowered” by the others.

• Joy is one of my friends from college. Yes we’re not the closest like best friends closest, but I still appreciate her, which is why I asked her to be a part of the bridal party.

• Just to put this out there, my bridesmaids aren’t the same, but there’s no striking differences that would make me say “wow, these girls can’t pull off the same dress”. What I mean by that is that I don’t have overly tall girls, overly skinny girls, girls with b***s that can’t support a certain dress because they’re TOO big, you get the rest. Also wanted to put this out there, I didn’t choose my bridesmaids because of their body type to match my “same dress aesthetic” (just saying that because I feel like someone would accuse me of it), that’s just how it was.

Edit 3: Oh! I forgot to add in something addressing the shawls. I did kind of bring this up while we were looking at dresses, but there were 2 issues with Joy. The first one was that she would veto the dresses, no matter what. The second one is that some of her issues didn’t even have to deal with anything a shawl would fix. For example, she had a problem with slits (no matter how small, as we saw with the last dress). She would also not care about the shawl and veto the dress entirely.

06/04/2026

I (32m) am getting married to my long term girlfriend Gemma (30f) at the end of November.

Now me and Gemma are having a small wedding with only close family and friends invited mainly because we don't want it to be an inconvenience to others and choosing a venue is really hard due to Gemma's allergy.

Gemma is allergic to dogs and is terrified of them due to a freak accident when she was younger (that's also when she found out she is allergic to them). While her allergy is not deadly, even when taking anti allergies her face would get significantly swollen, have red marks all over it that are visable even with heavy make up and she would constantly sneeze. Lockdown was a blessing in a way that she could wear a face mask that was helping with allergies, she is still trying to wear face masks to help her, but can't always do it inside as people immediately think she is ill and don't really want to have us in their restaurants/cafes.

And to the issue. My sister "Kate" has diabetes and has a service dog "Lenny" to help her. I absolutely adore him and Gemma is not scared of him either, however due to Emma's allergies I have reminded Kate not to take Lenny to our wedding (I was dropping some parcels for her this week as she was away and they were sent to my house) as I believe my future wife should be able to enjoy her day without the swelling, which would be hard to avoid due to the venue being quite small and private (Gemma gets the reaction even if there's a dog in the same supermarket even if it doesn't touch her). My sister has reminded he is a service animal and I can't ask her to not to take him, but I have told her he is still a dog and being a service animal doesn't miraculously cancel my wife's allergies and she knew about them from the start. I'm not asking not to take him to any family get togethers, I am just asking not to take him to our wedding.

My sister and my mum both called me an a__hole and are not talking to me and have threatened not to come to the wedding, which I said is fine as I value my wife's comfort more. But still aita?

06/04/2026

I (32f) recently got a train across the UK from London to Aberdeen. It's a seven-hour journey so I booked myself a first-class seat well in advance. First-class seats on trains in the UK can be expensive, but I decided to treat myself because:

1.

I was making the journey the day after returning from a two-week-long work trip abroad and I knew I'd be exhausted/ totally unable to function. 2. I knew I'd have work to do on the train, so I wanted to make sure I had space/ comfort to be able to work.

3. On certain trains in the UK, the first-class carriages have 'individual seats' which means you're not sitting next to or sitting opposite anyone. The space is entirely your own and you can spread out over the little table.

I specifically booked one of those seats to enable me to work. I got on the train at London and sat in my seat. The seat they'd assigned me was also the 'priority seat'.

'Priority seats' are the ones at the end of carriages for people with mobility issues due to age or disability etc. A woman got on after me who was around sixty-years old and pointed at the sign above my head and, quite rudely, told me to move because she was elderly. I told her I'd booked the seat and she'd need to speak to a member of staff to find her one.

She pointed out that the train was full (even first class was full) and there were no other seats. I apologised but reiterated that I'd booked the seat and wasn't going to move. Eventually, a train guard came over to try to help.

The lady had booked a return ticket, but she hadn't reserved a specific seat. For those who don't know how trains work in the UK, if you have an 'open ticket' and haven't also booked a seat reservation, it means you can travel on any train, but you aren't guaranteed a seat unless there's one available. He asked if either of us would consider moving to standard class if he could find us a seat.

I again refused, explaining I'd booked the seat well in advance and that I needed it. He asked if anyone in the rest of first class would mind changing and no one agreed. Eventually he took the woman to standard class and I assume found her a seat there.

I felt bad, but I also don't think I needed to put myself in severe discomfort because someone else didn't think ahead and reserve a seat. AITA? **Edit: Since it's apparently not clear, at no point was I aware this was a priority seat before getting on the train.**