07/15/2026
I’ll never be married…
I (38) have wanted to be married my whole life.
Last month we gathered at my parents’ house for Memorial Day. After the grilling, drinking, and laughing my mother tells me she has something in the garage for me. When we get to the garage she pulls a framed crochet doily from a black bag. As she hands it to me I think ‘I’ve seen this before.’
It’s a crochet doily of our last name in a beautiful frame.
She tells me ‘I had these made by a woman at church for you boys for wedding presents,’
So that’s where I’ve seen them. In my brothers’ houses.
‘but you never got married, so I’m just giving it to you now.’
Fu***ng heartbreak.
I am the middle of five boys. All of my brothers are married, have children, and are legitimately so happy with their lives. I know this because I speak to them all nearly daily and have always been everyone’s middle man (pun).
I’ve always been the black sheep of the family, have always been into art, literature, punk rock, and subculture in general. They are all classic suburban dads, with some edge, but still just run of the mill Costco people.
I am genuinely happy for all of them and it’s been a blessing to see us all grow into the men we are. But, man, I’m jealous.
I’ve had a few LTR, most five years or more. It just never happened.
Has punk rock ruined my life? Why can’t I just be normal?
I have a great relationship with my parents, my brothers, their wives and love all seven nephews to pieces. But I can’t shake the ‘why not me’.
Anyway, steak, peppers, tomato, and Underberg.