03/06/2025
“Must be nice”—yeah, it is.
It’s wild that in 2025, people still can’t wrap their heads around couples who don’t follow the outdated mold of “husband = breadwinner, wife = homemaker.” But here’s the thing—roles don’t define purpose.
For a long time, we fought these roles—not because they weren’t right for us, but because I wasn’t fully comfortable owning mine. I worried that stepping fully into my business role would somehow diminish Josh or make him feel less valued. At the same time, I wanted to embrace being a softer, more present mother, and I struggled with how to balance both. But the more we tried to fit into expectations that weren’t ours, the more we held ourselves back.
Josh takes the kids to school. He makes sure the bills are paid. He holds down our household while I run our businesses. And yet, we both get the comments—me for being the “money maker” and him for handling things at home. But guess what? He’s a provider in every way that matters.
Last year, we had to check ourselves. Momentum had made us take things for granted, and we had to be more intentional about appreciation and partnership. Because at the end of the day, this is a team effort.
Masculinity isn’t about making the most money. It’s about showing up, leading, protecting, and providing in the way God created you to. And I think my husband is the most masculine man I know because he’s confident in who he is and in the life we’re building together.
So let’s stop shaming and comparing. Let’s normalize doing what actually works for your family instead of trying to fit a script that doesn’t serve you. 💛
