11/06/2026
Anyone else experience making risky decisions in life and realizing those are the ones that took you to the best places?
For many years, Iād choose the safe and familiar choice. And that was perfectly okay for where I was at. And needed, really.
Safety used to be such an unconscious motivator for me in so many areas.
In my marriage, in my parenting, in how I approached life and relationship. Safety was a big anchor for me and where a lot of decisions were made even when I would try to talk myself out of it.
It probably was around 2020 that I decided to start making choices from a new place. A place of adventure. Of risk. Now, we have always made āriskyā choices in the grand scheme of thingsāitās kind of our wiring as a couple, but that doesnāt mean we made the daring ones for US. The funny thing about our 2020 decision to go RVing and travel around looking for a new home was also laced with safety for me.
I no longer felt it was āsafeā to raise a kid in CA based on my belief systems. And that was okay. It led us to so many adventures.
What Iāve learned through making decisions and going back to audit what my motivation was in past ones is that you can make a correct choice for YOU and still have safety as a motivator. AND how much more joy, peace and love would you feel if your motivation was something you consciously chose?
Safety as a motivation for me wasnāt wrong. It just was unconscious. And now, I want to be more conscious that I am actually choosing what I want from a place that leads me to my desires not away from them.
What is a big motivator for you in making decisions? Is it peace? Love? Joy?
Let me know below! ā¬ļø