17/06/2014
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What Is Ma********on?
Ma********on is the s*xual stimulation of one’s own ge****ls, usually to the point of or**sm. The stimulation can be performed using the hands, fingers, everyday objects, or dedicated s*x toys. I lifted that definition right off Wikipedia, as it is an accurate description and I do not feel compelled to reinvent the wheel.
•Ma********on Is Not A Sin
As I am a Christian (while this article is not religious in nature), I feel a need to speak out for the Bible. There is not one verse of the Bible that condemns self-stimulation. There is not one that insinuates such a condemnation. Yet, day after day, we hear preachers condemn ma********on as a sin. Their arguments?
There is the argument that s*x was created for mutual pleasure: Yes; I agree. S*x was. But ma********on is not s*x. It is s*xual, and many other things are s*xual, but it is not s*xual in*******se in itself. S*x is for mutual benefits; ma********on is for personal benefits. Two different things. Yet, as I shall show later, ma********on can be helpful in enhancing s*xual in*******se. Not only is it not a sin, it is a good thing.
There is also the argument that Jesus said if you lust after the opposite s*x in your mind, you are sinning. Yes; that is correct too, but then what part of physically stimulating yourself with the hands, fingers or any other object is lusting after someone in your mind? If a Christian lusts after someone in their heart while ma********ng, then such a one has crossed the line that Jesus drew. That does not make ma********on in itself a sin. That person has merely corrupted a clean act and needs to deal with his or her thoughts.
Someone asked me yesterday how I want to prove that “those activities are censored and powered by the Holy Spirit”. Let me ask a question in response: Have you ever given any thought to what happens during actual s*xual in*******se? A man and a woman panting, sweating and heaving like two idiots. All those cool looking dudes in suits (yes; that includes me) don’t look so cool when banging their women and look like grotesque demons when having an or**sm. What seems Holy Ghost approved and powered about a hormone-raging man ramming a stiff rod into a woman again and again and having her moan like an animal? And as for the women, all those prim and proper women we see in public often look like demon-possessed pagan priestess during in*******se.
Seriously, apart from the “Jesus!! Jesus!!” that some of the women cry out when in the throes of a good romp or an or**sm, there cannot be anything about s*x that looks like the Holy Ghost gives approval to the activity. Yet, He does. Case closed. The issue of Holy Ghost approval and all that is in the mind. The Bible that Christians claim to uphold does not make an issue of these things or of ma********on.
I am tired of Christians being so close-minded that they manufacture rules to help God. First, God doesn’t need your help. Second, take a look around you and ask yourself if this close-mindedness has helped your homes. S*xually dissatisfied husbands and wives everywhere, many of whom will not speak out though their marriages are in shambles. And many of them stubbornly refusing to look at facts when presented to them. Their call still.
• Ma********on Is Addictive
Yes; it is. But then, so are mobile phones, food, chocolate, wine, Coke, Twitter, Facebook and football. Yet, no-one is screaming “Sin!!!” for all those. Oh, even s*xual in*******se itself is addictive. Let’s just lay aside all those things because they are addictive; shall we? No; how to deal with anything that has the potential for being addictive is not to stay away from it, but to exercise moderation.
•Ma********on Is Not A Dirty habit
Some people call ma********on a dirty habit. In what sense? It produces mostly the same results as s*xual in*******se – the man ej******es. The woman has an or**sm and in some cases squirts. What else? Ma********on is just as dirty as s*xual in*******se is, as far as I can tell.
•Ma********on Is Healthy
In general, the medical community considers ma********on to be a natural and harmless expression of s*xuality for both men and women. It does not cause any physical injury or harm to the body, and can be performed in moderation throughout a person’s lifetime as a part of normal s*xual behavior.
If you use other objects apart from your hands, be careful though so you don’t hurt yourself. Perhaps you should visit a s*x shop for some toys instead.
•Why You Should Ma******te
Now that I have cleared the objections to ma********on, let me tell you why you should ma******te.
One: ma********on helps you get comfortable with your s*xuality. You get to know your body and what triggers you. That means you can generally be a better s*xual mate to your spouse. How do you expect your spouse to pleasure you s*xually when you are so clueless about yourself to start with? Do your partner a favour and play with yourself!
In counseling couples with s*xual issues over the years, especially where one partner is s*xually naive, I have recommended that he/she ma******tes to become more comfortable with their own s*xuality. A woman who is cold and passive during s*x can be a big problem to her husband. Ma********on helps deal with that. She learns what she likes and what triggers her off. She learns what makes her climax. She becomes better at s*x with her husband. Same thing the other way round.
Two: With many couples, one person usually has a higher s*xual drive than the other. This can put pressure on the relationship. Ma********on is an outlet for such individuals. Women keep complaining about their husbands ma********ng, yet forget that they are the ones who come up with excuses of having had a tired day or having a headache when the poor man wants s*x with them. Such women are evil and insensitive. Totally selfish. This applies to the men too. If your wife has a higher s*x drive than you do, ma********on is a good let off of s*xual pressure. In the alternative, you could let her roam….
Three: For single folks, ma********on is a good way of relieving the s*xual tension that can build up over time. It is safer than casual se’x and doesn’t cost you buying anybody lunch or dinner. Or breaking anybody’s heart just because you are h***y. For example, every month whether a woman likes it or not, she gets h***y (that’s every 60 seconds for a man, by the way). This is a biological function. For some, it is more intense than others. Mastu’rbation is a good way out. No; in itself, mastu’rbation will not hamper your se’xual in*******se later. Don’t believe the hype.
Four: Mastu’rbation produces almost all the other benefits of se’x without actual s’ex. It is a good anti-depressant, relieves tension (not just s’exual tension), helps you sleep, and keeps the mind sharp.
•Who Mastu’rbates?
Almost everybody mastu’rbates, including many of those people who tell you that it is sinful, dirty, and a bad habit (yes; the hypocrisy is filthy). Most people start mastu’rbating from their teens. Remember wet dreams when you first hit your teens? Usually that’s where it starts. A wet dream is a natural procedure by the body. No; it has nothing to do with witches and wizards or spiritual husbands and wives. God knows how many spiritual wives I must have by now if I count all the times I have had a wet dream. Thankfully, I had an educated and enlightened father who explained to me that it was nothing to worry about when he saw my bed stains many years ago as a teenager.
Mastu’rbation is a normal part of the growing child’s exploration of his or her body and continues for the rest of the lives of most people. If you mastu’rbate, you are not an oddity. Actually, its those who claim not to mastu’rbate that are the oddities. Don’t let anyone crush your spirit ever again about this. There is nothing wrong with you. There is nothing to be ashamed of about it. As long as you don’t let it become an addiction or a problem to normal s’ex’ual activity with your partner (and usually it becomes a problem when fantasy gets involved), you are all fine and dandy.
Sincerely,
Love Matters!
