09/06/2026
Hello all. As many of you know this small business and page was started in support of my husband who has been diagnosed with End Stage Renal Failure. I have not posted about it because I did not want anyone thinking or feeling like we were asking for pity or sympathy. I think the time has come though to talk about it.
From the patients point of view (my husband):
I want to explain what living with end-stage renal failure is like, because unless you live it or care for someone who does, it can be difficult to understand.
My kidneys can no longer do the work a healthy body needs them to do. It can mean overwhelming exhaustion, weakness, nausea, pain, itching, swelling, difficulty concentrating, strict limits on food and fluids, medications, appointments, and treatments that take up hours of life.
The tiredness is not the kind that disappears after a good night’s sleep. Some days, simply showering, getting dressed, or having a conversation can take everything I have. I may look okay while my body is working incredibly hard just to keep going.
Plans can change quickly. I may need to cancel, rest, leave early, or say no—not because I don’t care, but because my body has reached its limit. Dialysis and other treatments help keep me alive, but they are not the same as having healthy kidneys, and they can be exhausting themselves.
I am not sharing this for pity. I’m sharing it because I need understanding, patience, and compassion. Please don’t judge what you cannot see. If you want to support me, believe me when I say I’m struggling, be flexible when my health changes, and remember that I am still me—even while carrying something incredibly difficult every day. 💚💚💚