05/02/2026
Read that again, slowly.
A lot of the “advice” we got growing up wasn’t actually about helping us be better people. It was about us being more convenient to the other people in the room.
“You never stick with anything” wasn’t a coaching note. It was overextended adults naming their own exhaustion and pinning it on you.
“You’re too much” wasn’t observational. It was someone telling you that they didn’t have the bandwidth for who you actually are.
“Be realistic” wasn’t insight. It was somebody else’s discomfort with your size, repeating itself until you internalized it.
The advice was real—and designed to benefit the person giving it. The diagnosis of you as a problem to be solved was wrong. And if you’re still hearing that “advice” in your head, you’ve been working on the wrong problem for a long time.
Big Idea to Done is the workbook for the people who are done working on the wrong problem. It walks you through finding out what YOU actually want — not what other people are comfortable with you wanting — and learning how to finally follow through on it. DM me DONE and I’ll send you the link.