12/07/2023
Thought for the day…
Can we please just normalize being human already?
I recall the first time I had to pick up my little ones from elementary school early, and had literally no choice but to bring them back to my place of employment. Everybody looked, some pointed and I’m sure more made comments.
I remember thinking “why is this something that is so alien, that it prompts any response? Why isn’t this normal? Do you not trust me as an employee, that this was the only option? Do you not think I exhausted all other options first? Do you really think my preferred is to bring my kids to my place of employment and hope they conduct themselves perfectly in a brand new environment, surrounded by strangers?”
We need to admit (and for some it’s time to recognize) that life is a juggling act. It’s a delicate balance. A daring tightrope walk that many of us perform everyday, just to show up. One little glitch in the matrix, and everything is out of balance. One seemingly minor change to the routine, and it’s chaos.
Are we expected to pretend our real lives don’t exist while at work? Do you know the odds of those two separate lives never interacting? For at least 40 hours per week, to expect no family emergencies, no sick kids, no burst pipes at the house, no dog got out, no bus was late, no I didn’t sleep. No my spouse is really sick and I need to be there. No I’m being abused at home and I’m afraid to go back, no electric turned off cause I couldn’t pay the bill, no I can’t afford a new battery so my car won’t start. I could go on and on. Now, imagine this over your working career of 50 years or so.
My point is none of us know the story behind why the children had to come to the workplace, or why somebody has been sick a lot lately, or why they take the bus to work, or a myriad of other examples I could plug in here.
Employees are trusted to run our businesses, handle our customers, protect our assets, lock the shop doors, generate revenue, handle our cash, drive our cars, and much more. Yet, for some reason, we don’t trust them to call off (which statistically, most employees rarely do) step out for a couple hours, go to an appointment and grab lunch before returning, or yes bring a child or two into the office so that they can still work for you, while also being a parent.
Employees should be rewarded for this type of valor and commitment. Why? Because instead of having a situation arise and the employee just leave to address it, they value their job enough to bring their life into their work, in order to fulfill their obligations to both.
Can we just normalize that we’re all human and this is real life? Stop pretending life stops from 9am-5pm, or whatever crazy hours you’re working. People are human. Stop this facade and pointing fingers when someone is struggling. Maybe ask if you can help instead. Maybe just at ask if things are ok?
Dare I say, we should not only accept, but embrace and welcome humans in our workplace?