04/25/2026
Today, April 25, is Parental Alienation Awareness Day.
What is Parental Alienation (also known as Coercive Control)?
It is, in short, the psychological manipulation of children and dynamics around a child by one parent against another. The objective is usually to turn the child against the other parent and/or cut the other parent out of the child’s life.
This is a day meant to advocate for better legal recognition of these methods as child ab*se.
What parental alienation can look like:
•Telling the child the other parent doesn’t want to see them, doesn’t like them, doesn’t love them
•Denigrating the other parent to make the child believe they are unsafe or untrustworthy
•Limiting the child’s contact with the other parent such that they are unable to build a meaningful relationship
•Interfering with the child’s contact with the other parent
•Making the child feel bad/guilty/in trouble for speaking well of or wanting to see or talk to their other parent
•Withholding love, affection and care when child does speak or act favorably toward their other parent
•Encouraging or demanding the child reject their other parent or praising/reinforcing when they do
•Asking/telling the child to keep secrets from the other parent
•Excluding the other parent from important information such as living arrangements, sports or extracurriculars, or medical decisions or changes
•Undermining or minimizing the other parent’s role in the child’s life
•And in some of the highest conflict situations, false allegations, brainwashing, breaking court orders and more
These behaviors not only hurt the parent but cause long lasting damage for the child. Children often feel deep down when they are being gaslit or manipulated but don’t have the words or understanding to speak up, or are too afraid of displeasing the alienator. This can lead to lifelong insecurities and self confidence issues as they struggle to trust others or themselves.
And while many alienators’ goal is to sabotage the other parents relationship with the child or minimize / exclude the other parent - this VERY often backfires.
Every day I speak to adult children who suffered alienation who now are no contact with the alienating parent.
I hope to see a world in the future with two changes:
1. That parents start loving their children more than they hate their ex and
2. That parental alienation/coercive control becomes recognized as DV in the court of law.